growth · healing

Self-Sabotage

“Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.” Psychology Today Self-sabotaging behavior is not only problematic, it also seems to be widespread. In my line of work, I see it often. As I mentor who works with women and teens who have been abused, or have experienced some… Continue reading Self-Sabotage

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When Fear Destroys Hope

“You’re afraid you are going to fail, so you are not even trying.” These words hold so true. They were said to me out of love and that is all the difference, but that doesn’t mean they don’t burn. The problem, however, is that I don’t know what to do with that. As I work… Continue reading When Fear Destroys Hope

domestic violence · healing

I’m Teetering, but I Won’t Fall Down

Did you ever feel like you’re flying high and then tumbling down lower than low all within a few days? I call it functioning depression. I’m sure there is a clinical name, but remember that I am not a therapist nor am I working towards becoming one. I simply call it as I see it… Continue reading I’m Teetering, but I Won’t Fall Down

domestic violence · healing

Breathe out love

Breathe in peace. Breathe out love. A simple mantra, but one that has calmed me when anxiety sets in, when energies out of my control decent on me, and when sleep is disrupted by thoughts only my subconscious mind can begin to understand. Mostly, I have no comprehension of where these negative feelings come from,… Continue reading Breathe out love

domestic violence · growth · healing

Letting Go to Move Forward

To Live Effective and Enjoyable Lives, We Can’t Waste Any More Time On Yesterday. It is a common issue of many to live in the past. I personally believe that most of our sadness and pain comes directly from our inability to let go of what has hurt us and focus on what brings us… Continue reading Letting Go to Move Forward

domestic violence · healing

And Then Life Flipped…

I find that more and more time passes between blog posts.  On a good note, it is because a lot of things are happening that keep me busy.  In my last two posts, I talked about how frustrated I was with life, how events had triggered me and depression had reared its ugly head.  I… Continue reading And Then Life Flipped…

domestic violence · growth · healing

Why is this happening to me?

“Why is this happening to me?” It is the question of self-doubt and self-pity. The question of a victim. Asking this question is the realization that we don’t have control over our lives and lacking the faith required to be ok with that. This question is the bane of my existence.   It haunts me… Continue reading Why is this happening to me?